Guest Editor: The Sartorialist

(I'm sure he won't mind...)

This was posted on The Sartorialist website. It is most swoon-worthy. I know a few guys in my life who I would most certainly categorise as gentlemen with that eye for detail that is not applied to themselves, but to others - be it their lover, friend, child or colleague.

A Graceful Man, A Gentleman
One of the things I mentioned yesterday, was the "manner" of a person. "Manner" or "grace" is not something that you can learn from a book. Unfortunately, it is something you just have to be or to develop.

A great scene of modern grace on '30 Rock' the other day:

Liz and Jack went out to dinner at a very chic restaurant. As they sat down at the table, Jack immediately moved the candle from the center of the setting to the side of the table. Liz looked at him kinda funny, not understanding why he did that but, not really caring either. Later, however, when Liz reached across the table to steal some of Jack's food (as she always does), she realized he moved the candle so her sleeve wouldn't catch fire when she reached across the table. Jack's manner and grace were so attuned to her as a friend, that he knew her moves before she did. That tiny gesture ended up becoming the pivotal moment of the episode and changed the course of their business relationship.


I'm telling you guys again, women notice the small stuff. They notice the gentleness/gentlemenliness more than if you use the right fork at dinner. I'm a very lucky man, Garance notices every little kindness I offer her, she doesn't miss a thing. Knowing that makes it so much more rewarding to do even more little things for her. I'll be honest, my biggest obsession in life right now is not better shoes, more suits or a bigger career but, to simply be a more graceful man for my graceful woman.

So women, in the spirit of grace, manner and Valentine's Day, take a moment and share with us men some of the little kindnesses that your man has done for you that made your heart flutter. Us men might learn something and you might gain an even more graceful man, a gentleman.

Editor's Note: For my gay readers, I can only write this as I know it, a man loving a woman. Don't let this keep you from joining the conversation. If you have tiny acts of kindness from a boyfriend to a boyfriend, or girlfriend to a girlfriend, please share with us!

Grace is Grace.
It doesn't matter who you're lovin', it's how you're lovin'!

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I adore that he picked up the immense grace of Jack on 30 Rock. God, I just love that character! I forwarded the article on to one of my friends who I believe is one of these men. I think he was rather chuffed.

So Happy Valentine's Day to all the gentlemen out there. You are appreciated - and noticed! xo

Let's hear it for the boys.