Tuesday, July 22, 2014
Friday, July 18, 2014
To lighten things up, please enjoy the song that has been stuck in my head for the past few weeks, and which I must admit I've watched the film clip more than a few times on YouTube, referencing one of my favourite films of all time, Clueless.
Tuesday, July 15, 2014
Monday, July 14, 2014
Friday, July 11, 2014
With some friends, you can pick up after months of not catching up - be it due to distance, career or family commitments that keep you apart - and it's like no time has passed. Alternatively, you might meet someone new, and there is an instant bond, and you find yourself in the blissful throes of being in the company of someone who understands you and enjoys hanging out with you in an entirely non-sexual way. In general parlance, it's called friendship.
With other friends, you may suddenly realise you have nothing in common any more, or worse, you despise the person you're sharing a glass of champagne with - and there's not much you can do until you've both drained your glass and escaped the tedium of your rigidly scheduled "catch up". Strangely, you often invest more time in this limbo-land of dutiful friendship and growing resentment than you do on the real, uplifting relationships in your life.
I'm not sure if it's something as sinister as Mercury Retrograde or if it's simply another stage in evolution. Whatever the reason, a number of my girlfriends and I are finding ourselves in friendships that drain us of energy (Qi Vampires), and leave us feeling a range of emotions: angry that we wasted our time putting up with their crap, confused that we feel flat after spending time with them, or the more direct feeling of hurt, that we are somehow not interesting/fun/worthy enough to warrant a polite response to a simple text or email.
All of a sudden we find ourselves in the awkward position of breaking up with or being dumped by friends we've outgrown or who have outgrown us. Unlike a romantic entanglement though, there don't seem to be rules of engagement (or disengagement) that we know to follow to preserve our mental health and feelings of self-worth as we extract ourselves from the friendship. We're rudderless when we suddenly find ourselves being broken up with, or attempting to break up with, a friend who is moving swiftly into frenemy territory.